Help....

What kind of type are you if you are in desperate need for help? Do you wish people just know that you are in need and the help was given without your request? Or perhaps, you decided that you are the one who need help then you should spoke the request to other people...

Once I heard someone talk about how he hates his friends and families because nobody gives him the help that he need... But when other people commented about how cruel his families and friends for not giving him the help that he requested, he then said.... well, he did not ask... And he added that they should know his condition because he was sick and need a lot of money, blah, blah, blah....

Hmmm, I do not agree with that.... I consider myself always holding back when I need help from others, but I think I can decide which condition that I can fix by myself and which one that need to be helped by others. And to get that help, I would not hesitate to ask. Just like the situation when both of my parents got sick. There is no way I could just stay silent and hoping others will lend their hand after seeing my condition. Of course without me asking, they do realize that I need that help. But, I think a request should be spoken to them. I do not want to be a kind of person who later on said that I never asked for that help and who ask you to help me out? I think that would be rude and ungrateful.

So, if you need my help, then you should say it.... I am not a mind reader and I need you to speak to me outloud.... I am not going to remind you in the future that without me, you can not go on living because I am just a person who happens to be right by yourside when you need me... But, if you choose to stay silent and stay away from me, then so be it.... Knock yourself out...

How close are we?

Sometimes we got offended by our close friend's over their comments about us...We thought that they have been friend with us for so long and they should knew things that we prefer not to be talked about.... Or joke about....

But often, we offended our friend thinking that it's okay to say things like that as they should know that we did not mean any harm....

Perhaps we have been friends for too long, we started to think that our friends are us... same in mind and heart.... And forget that each person has different view about anything.... Isn't that friendship all about? To fill each other empty's space? Do we really know about each other? How close are we actually? That will be something to be pondered about...

When the light goes out....

Noticing that there is a blackout most of the time from the Electricity Company these days? It's okay if the light goes out during the daylight... you can still read or doing something at your home... But if the light goes out during the night... then what are you going to do then? You obviously will find a hard time to read using the candle ; that if you are not so lucky to own a generator or something like that... In addition, your gadgets are all run out batteries and you forgot to re-charge them.... Darn... Should you stare to the sky and wondering how long you have to spend the time in the darkness?

A few days ago, the light goes out during our dinner time... So, it is kinda funny to have candle light dinner .... with your families instead of your lover or close friend... We suddenly have so many things to talk about... . Nobody being in the rush to finish the meal to watch soap operas, or browsing the internet (that would be me, one and only), or reading newspaper and even washing the dishes... We just sat down and talked while eating our ice cream ... Then my Dad turn on the old time radio and we have this radio's station playing old songs... I mean, really old songs... Most of the songs were from the 70's.... Kinda remind me the time when we have no television at home and all we did just listen to the radio... With no annoying commercial or whatsoever.... While the songs playing, we moved to sit outside, near the garden or so called garden ... and staring up the sky... There was no star that night... as the sky look so bright... wondering why....

And finally the light came back... and the magic was dissappeared...

See? It was not so bad ? Just use that time to do something with your family.... And you will never realize that the time flew you by so fast...

Great minds (better not) think alike

It was an accidental movie gathering last night. Why did I say accidental? Because we were not planning to catch a movie in the first place... But... since of us saying that she would love to go to the movie with us... for any movies, Novi got us a ticket for EAGLE EYE... and there we were... at the cinema .... again...

And as usual, Dina and I landed ourself at SUSHI TEI again. I was kinda reluctant to ask her go dining there as she might get bored... but she said she would not... So, last night I was trying her fave menu: Black Caviar and it is delicious... I finally added something new on my fave menu...

Something funny happenned yesterday and it made me realize that having the same taste and thoughts... really not always end up in good result... I always follow whatever my friends advise me to wear because ... well... their advice never dissapointed me so far and my Mom never raise her eyebrows anymore seeing my current choice of clothes... Of course, if I was not sure with whatever they pick for me, I would say no. But most of the time, I always loves whatever they pick for me. Anyway...., yesterday I decided to wear black v-neck shirt and grey pants. When I walked into the office, I saw my close friend wear black turtle neck shirt on her. I said to myself, wow... we do think alike these days... wearing the same color to the office on the same day... And then I saw her pants and I said to her... please stay away from me for this one particular day. She saw my pants and laughed out loud.... I even took a photo of us (which I will post it later)... We really look like a pair of women guarding a stand or something....

I suppose, great minds should not think alike after all...

The reason behind...

When I met with my friends last week, we were comparing each other bodies.... The other have gain weight a bit... not too much, but just a bit... While me and one of my friend, has finally reduced it... But this friend of mine is sooo thin so I asked her, is she okay or whether she just recovering from her illness or something....

She smiled and said that she has two reasons for reducing her weight. First, a guy insulted her saying that she looks like ladies with children (this guy was introduced to her by a friend, in a hope they could build a relationship ... which the result is...not that kind of relationship in the end anyway). She was so angry about his comment (she found out from somebody else) and have been asking us was she really that fat? The second was, her vicious manager asked her whether she was secretly having a pregnancy without a husband.... Well, the last part I think it will be sufficient enough to drive people reducing her weight .... But probably, not... Many people have thought of me as a mother of children for so many times... still not able to force me to reduce my weight... I guess I am just too lazy to do that....

So, I think.... there is always something that will triggered us to do something that previously we were too lazy to do.... A compliment or sometimes a terrible insult could drive us to do something positive that .... yeah might chance our life...

Now I can understand, why ... long time ago, Sean Connery say thanks not only to his friends and colleagues, but also to his enemies... when he received an OSCAR. Often, the people that you do not like also contribute something to boost your energy in doing something great.... Though again, it is up to us to use that kind of boost for our own benefit....

Strangers and families

Yesterday I watched this one episode from Desperate Housewives and one of the stories is interesting. One of the characters is worried that her son might be involved in dealing with drugs. So, she disguise herself as teens and join the community forum, you know like facebook, multiply, sort of like that... and having a chat with her son... Her husband warning her to stop the chatting as soon as they got information that their son has nothing to do with dealing drugs... But..., of course.... she could not... How could she stop...? From there, she found out that her son loves poetry and even write a poem.... Her son talk so many things... Finally her son found out about this and the dialogues were interesting.... She said that she loves the conversation with her son because he has told her so many things .... she missed the old days when her son would come to her and just talk.... And coldly, her son aswered that he talked with the girl on the net, not to his Mom...

Funny don't you think that you can be sooo open about your life to a total strangers compare with your friends and even to your own families... Perhaps because with strangers, especially if they do not know who the heck we are, we have no worries that they will judge us for what we do or think... And even if they do judge us and give critics...., we can just accept that ... since the stranger does not know who we are exactly... But when we talk with someone that knew us, we are afraid for their reaction, we are worry for their response and how that is going to change the way they looking at us.... Ironic that strangers change into your family while your families and friend drifted to become a stranger....