Why do you always smile in all of your photos? That was the question that my late Grandma asked me one.
There are tonz of answer to that one simple question. Maybe because I am just a coquettish person. Or like to show everybody how yellow my teeth are (hehehehehe). Or because I just know that with smiling, I will look good in that photo (certainly not look younger, I have already known that) or maybe because I just simply being happy at that time.
Most of the time, I hardly smile. Asked all my colleagues and especially my Mom. She always remind me when she saw me put a sullen face. She said I look ten times older. (Yep, can\rquote t agree more. Just by smiling I already look 30 years older). Or suddenly I heard my colleague said, Wow, what is it? You look so serious during these past few hours. I do not know why, but I just did. Maybe I feel there is nothing was wrong, or whatever, but my face gave it all away. Why did I do that? I have no idea myself. Perhaps I just being bored or fed up with the situation but can not express it very well, so it is all shown in my face. Which, I think that look are all over on everybody's faces. Perhaps the look is a result from being cautious, depressed, alert, careful and lots of other reason.
Try to smile on someone that you are accidentally step on or push. Most of them will probably smiled back politely, forget their first intention to be angry. Or smile to your colleagues at work. They probably surprised, but naturally they will smiled back again. Smiling is actually contagious. And it will bring you good feelings too. The reason you feel want to smile, because you feel good about something. You feel happy. And you can share that happiness by just simply smile to others. Of course, I do not recommend you to smile on everyone or perhaps smile excessively to your boss or someone else\rquote s wife/husband. But just try relaxing your face. Trust me. It is not easy. I once try to look at my face every five minutes in the mirror and wow! They always looks so stress out!
Anyway, this is just a small talk. A suggestion to you and of course to me as I have not been doing any smile lately. But let us try it. It make us look prettier, softer and happier. It will boost your spirit when you feel that there is nothing to be smiled about in this world
Thursday, January 31, 2008
Tuesday, January 29, 2008
Honest or get fried?
How do you tell a person that she or he did not do the right thing? Well, is not hard. Just say it…! Wrong! For some people, is not that easy… It took them a loooooooooot of thinking, consideration, thoughts, and eventually they might end up not saying anything. Just holding back and keep on grumbling to themselves.
In Jakarta, is common for people to hitchhike together if they are all have the same destination. Like 5 people who worked together, living in the same street. They will go together in one car, collect money to support gas and highway fee to the driver. It is a win-win solution. The driver could ease the expense on gas and highway fee. The passengers could sit nicely in a private car, chatting together with friends, and most of all they can avoid pickpocket or any other muggers operating in the public transportation.
The main story? Oh yes, almost forgot. A colleague of mine along with few other people always hitchhikes with Mr.A. One of them is Mrs. B who has been acquaintance with Mr.A for a long time. Most of the other passengers knew Mr.A from Mrs. B. And probably because of that, Mrs. B felt that there is nothing wrong if they have to wait for her before they finally go to the office or go back home. The passengers and Mr A feel a bit annoyed by her habit but have no courage to tell her otherwise. One of them tried and it end up in a fight and give no satisfaction result. Until one day, in anticipating of heavy traffic, Mr A informed all his passengers including Mrs. B to stand by early in their pick and drop post as he will not wait for them if they are late. And it turn out, Mrs. B is late as usual and it made her angry to be left behind. Up to this moment, she refused to hitchhike together with Mr. A and complained that he has no sense of being a loyal friend.
So, which one is the guilty party? No doubt, the answer is Mrs. B. It does not mean that being the long time acquaintance with Mr A, she is then have the right to make everybody waits for her all the times. But, does that mean Mr. A is the victim in this story? I do not think so. I think he is just as guilty as Mrs B for being a very reluctance person to correct her habit.
Most of us, including me, is like Mr A. Often, we consider that it is not appropriate for us to be angry with our close friends for just a simple matter. To think that our friends have been there for us whenever we are in trouble, then how can we get annoyed by their one tiny little mistake. But, that tiny little mistake starting to get you when you realized that your friends did that over and over again. Not their fault. They did not know that you do not like it, as you have no courage to tell them not to do that again.
Why we are so afraid? Of course we are worry with their reaction at first. And if we do finally be able to tell them, will they be so angry and decided to end up our friendship? Are we ready to face that? Of course, you have to consider which one is worst. They end up the friendship. Or you keep on the friendship but getting more and more annoyed with your friends. And eventually, you will blow up. Which could terminate the friendship anyway in the end…
In Jakarta, is common for people to hitchhike together if they are all have the same destination. Like 5 people who worked together, living in the same street. They will go together in one car, collect money to support gas and highway fee to the driver. It is a win-win solution. The driver could ease the expense on gas and highway fee. The passengers could sit nicely in a private car, chatting together with friends, and most of all they can avoid pickpocket or any other muggers operating in the public transportation.
The main story? Oh yes, almost forgot. A colleague of mine along with few other people always hitchhikes with Mr.A. One of them is Mrs. B who has been acquaintance with Mr.A for a long time. Most of the other passengers knew Mr.A from Mrs. B. And probably because of that, Mrs. B felt that there is nothing wrong if they have to wait for her before they finally go to the office or go back home. The passengers and Mr A feel a bit annoyed by her habit but have no courage to tell her otherwise. One of them tried and it end up in a fight and give no satisfaction result. Until one day, in anticipating of heavy traffic, Mr A informed all his passengers including Mrs. B to stand by early in their pick and drop post as he will not wait for them if they are late. And it turn out, Mrs. B is late as usual and it made her angry to be left behind. Up to this moment, she refused to hitchhike together with Mr. A and complained that he has no sense of being a loyal friend.
So, which one is the guilty party? No doubt, the answer is Mrs. B. It does not mean that being the long time acquaintance with Mr A, she is then have the right to make everybody waits for her all the times. But, does that mean Mr. A is the victim in this story? I do not think so. I think he is just as guilty as Mrs B for being a very reluctance person to correct her habit.
Most of us, including me, is like Mr A. Often, we consider that it is not appropriate for us to be angry with our close friends for just a simple matter. To think that our friends have been there for us whenever we are in trouble, then how can we get annoyed by their one tiny little mistake. But, that tiny little mistake starting to get you when you realized that your friends did that over and over again. Not their fault. They did not know that you do not like it, as you have no courage to tell them not to do that again.
Why we are so afraid? Of course we are worry with their reaction at first. And if we do finally be able to tell them, will they be so angry and decided to end up our friendship? Are we ready to face that? Of course, you have to consider which one is worst. They end up the friendship. Or you keep on the friendship but getting more and more annoyed with your friends. And eventually, you will blow up. Which could terminate the friendship anyway in the end…
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