hang out with married couples with kids

I suppose to post entries about my last trip to Bali, but I am still in the middle of preparing them, so I will post this one first.

I have this friend, who I rarely see. In a year, we probably only met once. She is busy with her own life, especially since she has moved to Tangerang and helped her brother's works even on Saturday. So, when she called me and out of the blue asked me to meet her on the first day of Idul Fitri, I said yes immediately.

Then, yesterday my Mom asked me to go with the whole family to our relatives who celebrate Lebaran ; also this Saturday. I said to her that I have to ask my friend first as it has been ages since the last time I saw her.

And when I finally call her to confirm our meeting, erh..., she sounded not so sure anymore. It turn out, all her friends from her previous home in somewhere around Sumatra are planning a gathering this Lebaran to.... PUNCAK. And she was torn in between do not want to go and really not wish to go. Huh?

Well, she do not wish to spend time with all her married friends. She can already imagine what they will say to her. Oh, you should not be so picky. Is there anything else in this world that you look for? Just look, my child already reach teen age. And she did not want to answer back as she did not want to offend her friends and becoming the talk of the town. Oh, she is sooooo sensitive. Probably because she is still single at this moment. So, she can not decide whether she should go with them or not.

CApeee deehhh

I can not force her to be me. If that were me, I probably prefer not go. And who cares if everyone back home talk behind my back. I am not socializing with them everyday. But then, I have never had any friend from outside Jakarta since kindergarten. Jakarta is my home town. So, naturally I can not understand why she is so scared about being talked around the town.

However, I can not even imagine to spend 5 days with married couples with kids. No offense. But facing one couple with kids already give me a headache. They will giving me advise about how important to raise a family, having kids to take care of me when I grow old, not to be so choosy (wondering why they always emphasize this one?) , that having a family is a sign of being adult. Actually, these adivses are okay. It means they are still pay attention to me. But, to face dozen of couples attacking you at the same time? Over and over again. And you can only smile and nod and agree with them. As once you said the opposite, they will say that you are stubborn, sensitive being old maid and other bad image to be stamped on you.

So, if my friends choose to hang out with them rather than me, well... is her choice and not mine. And thanks God I am not in her position